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Do You Suffer From Social Anxiety?

Posted on 30th June 2010 by IBobz in Social Support

Self Confidence, Suffering From, World Today

This is something that is more wide spread than people think, it is very common in our world today and although it differs from person to person in its severity, social anxiety can touch us all in one form or another. Even though it is a common condition, it is not very often recognized or treated and many can suffer in silence.

We have all suffered at some point in our lives of being shy or not being comfortable socially, most deal with it in some way or another, but there are many that end up getting controlled by it and will avoid certain social situations because they get far to anxious, they simply cannot deal with the pressure of feeling embarrassed, the blushing, sweating, trembling and even stammering or having difficulty in stringing a sentence together. It is understandable then that anyone suffering from these afflictions would want to avoid getting into situations that would play on them.

This shyness normally starts in childhood, most kids get shy when there are a lot of people around, especially if they are adults, but most kids do overcome this with encouragement from their parents and other family members or even teachers. If we grow in confidence at a young age then we are more likely to be confident as we grow older and more able to deal with social situations. But if a child does not get any encouragement then they may well lack in confidence. More should be done at an early age to help children with confidence and to establish a positive mental attitude, this would eliminate a lot of problems before they have a chance to develop.

Therapy is a way of helping all ages from breaking free of the lack of self confidence, what ever part of our lives that it affects. Reading a very good self help book can also help in building ones confidence and changing negative thoughts into positive ones. There are questions that we can ask ourselves to find out whether we are affected by this condition in a way of a social anxiety test, an important thing when doing this is to remember to be honest with ourselves and then we can start to deal with the results. Or we can always visit our Doctor or a specialist in these kind of disorders and they will undertake a more in depth test and then implement or recommend a form of treatment.

Many people are to embarrassed to admit they suffer from this condition and will not even contemplate getting any help for it, but help is what is needed and the more people that come forward to seek this help the more recognized this condition will become and then the more people that can be helped in the future.

By: Bret Finnego

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Cure Social Anxiety Disorder

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Posted on 30th June 2010 by IBobz in Social Support

Anxiety Sufferers, Anxiety Symptoms, Psychological Symptoms

If you suffer social anxiety disorder, then avoiding social situations is nothing new to you, feeling uncomfortable around other people – which causes blushing, in short words you would like to be more social but you cant. Before I found a way to cure social anxiety disorder, these problems were part of my life every single day. In this article I want to tell you about social anxiety disorder and how to cure social anxiety disorder.

Physical symptoms

Since every person is unique everyone have their own symptoms, but common symptom that most social anxiety disorder sufferers feel is discomfort at social situations – it makes you want to escape away from there. Another symptom that some people have is stomach cramps – it may happen while social situations or even after. Other symptoms that you have probably experienced are facial blushing, sweating. Blushing is one of the main problems for people who are suffering social anxiety disorder, because everybody can see that you’re feeling uncomfortable, and worst thing is that when you try to hold it back, it actually might get worse. It is very common that for social anxiety sufferers it might be hard to urinate in public restrooms or where people are nearby.

Another major symptom I would like to tell you about is rapid heart beating, if you have experienced it during social situations you know exactly what I’m talking about, sometimes it feels so loud that you’re actually afraid that other people can hear it – you don’t need to worry about it, there is no way they can hear it.

Breathing is something so normal, but if you’re at social situations you may have noticed that sometimes when you’re talking to people you can’t even finish the sentence when you feel that you have run out of air, and need to take a breath. This usually happens when you’re around larger audience and when you notice problems with breathing it may make you more nervous.

These are just some of the psychological symptoms, as I said every person is different so don’t worry if you have any symptoms that was not listed.

Psychological Symptoms

Psychological symptoms are mostly caused by weak self image that you may have gotten because of criticizing yourself.

Major problem is constant worrying in social situations, you constantly check what you’re saying and your current pose, position of hands, etc. For example if you’re sitting somewhere and there are people around, you don’t know where to look, where to put your hands and how loud you should speak. It may feel that every time somebody looks at you, you’re doing something wrong. Because of checking what you’re saying, you can’t feel yourself free and this makes you just want to escape from that situation, but truth is if you escape it will actually cause your social anxiety disorder to get worse – so remember no matter how hard it may seem – try to hold on and not to escape. It might not turn out successfully at first, sometimes it happens that you will escape no matter how hard you try, but important thing is not to give up and not to fall into self pity as it won’t help at all, it will just make everything worse.

Because of all these symptoms, it seems better to choose to avoid everything and everyone, stay home safely where there are no people around you.It’s the easiest thing to do, but most certainly not the right thing, life has so much to offer you, avoiding social situations will leave you out of so many opportunities. It is easy to fall into self pity and depression – I have felt all this.

Before finding a cure to my social anxiety I found many guides on the Internet, which didn’t seem to help me at all or just a little, but those definitely didn’t help me to overcome social anxiety. If you can relate you know what it feels like – trying some methods, hoping that you can finally start living and then it turns out it doesn’t help at all. This is because every person has their own symptoms and there is no universal cure for social anxiety disorder.

I want to tell you that you should stop worrying what people think of you too much, also you should stop checking your behavior, tone and gestures and tell yourself that people are not looking at you, most people are too busy looking at themselves. There is no reason to be someone you’re not.

You can’t really overcome this problem just by trying to be who you are as many guides would recommend. For that you need a guide that would help you to cure all your symptoms.

Most important thing is not to give up, it is easy to give up if you try hard and then get rejected, but this is something you have to accept, just make sure not to fall into self pity.

If you want to overcome social anxiety disorder for good, I highly recommend you to get a book – this was only thing that helped me to overcome social anxiety disorder for good. A good ebook doesn’t cost too much, and you can find so much more tips than you can find by searching the web.

By: Drew C.

About the Author:

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Child Support in the Arizona Family Court: How Do Social Security Benefits Affect Calculations?

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Posted on 30th June 2010 by IBobz in Social Support

Arizona Child Support Guidelines, Arizona Family, Disability Insurance

Social Security benefits can affect child support in two ways. First, if either the parent paying child support (the “obligor”) or the parent receiving child support (the “obligee”) receives Social Security benefits, the Arizona Child Support Guidelines require that the Social Security benefits be included in determining either parents income. Thus, the Social Security benefits help to determine the initial child support obligation.

Second, the Social Security benefits can affect the amount of child support that must be paid out of pocket by the parent paying child support. Section 26 of the Arizona Child Support Guidelines addresses this issue and states verbatim as follows:

A. Income earned or money received by a child from any source other than court-ordered child support shall not be counted toward either parent’s child support obligation except as stated herein. However, income earned or money received by or on behalf of a person for whom child support is ordered to continue past the age of majority pursuant to Arizona Revised Statute Sections 25-320.B and 25-809.F may be credited against any child support obligation.

B. Benefits, such as Social Security Disability or Insurance, received by a custodial parent on behalf of a child, as a result of contributions made by the parent paying child support shall be credited as follows:

1. If the amount of the child’s benefit for a given month is equal to or greater than the paying parent’s child support obligation, then that parent’s obligation is satisfied.

2. Any benefit received by the child for a given month in excess of the child support obligation shall not be treated as an arrearage payment nor as a credit toward future child support payments.

3. If the amount of the child’s benefit for a given month is less than the parent’s child support obligation, the parent shall pay the difference unless the court, in its discretion, modifies the child support order to equal the benefits being received at that time.

C. Except as otherwise provided in section 5.B, any benefits received directly, and not on behalf of a child, by either the custodial parent or the parent paying child support as a result of his or her own contributions, shall be included as part of that parent’s gross income.

The interpretation of Section 26, above, minus some of the legalese, is really pretty simple:

A. If a child receives benefits from a source outside of the parent paying child support, it will not normally diminish the paying parent’s child support obligation unless the Arizona Child Support Guidelines provide a specific exception. However, if a mentally or physically disabled child receives child support past the age of majority, those amounts may be credited toward the paying parent’s child support obligation. Notice this is a “may” and not a “shall,” meaning that the court has discretion in this child support matter.

B. If a child receives benefits, such as social security or insurance, because the paying parent made the child eligible to receive such benefits by paying into the system, those amounts will be credited toward the paying parent’s child support obligation in the manners described. Notice this is a “shall” and not a “may,” meaning that the court has no discretion in this child support matter.

C. As mentioned above, a parent who receives payments directly on his or her behalf must include those amounts in income totals used to calculate child support. However, the exception to this provision is provided by the Child Support Guidelines Section 5(B) which states, “Gross income does not include sums received as child support or benefits received from means-tested public assistance programs including, but not limited to, Temporary Assistance to Needy Families (TANF), Supplemental Security Income (SSI), Food Stamps and General Assistance.”

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Social Anxiety Disorder Help Tips

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Posted on 29th June 2010 by IBobz in Social Support

Apprehension, Irritability, Physiological State

The Wikipedia definintion of anxiety is as follows

Anxiety (also called solicitude) is a psychological and physiological state characterized by cognitive, somatic, emotional, and behavioral components. These components combine to create the painful feelings that we typically recognize as anger, fear, apprehension, or worry. Anxiety is often accompanied by physical sensations such as heart palpitations, nausea, chest pain, shortness of breath, stomach aches, or headache.

There may be undue confusion and irritability when the person is acutally suffering the anxiety. Emotions may be heightened at this stage also. Emotional symptoms also include fear (such as a fear of being left alone), or the need to avoid certain situations perceived as being stressful or social gatherings due to fear of embarrassment.

Here are some social anxiety disorder help tips to enable you cope with anxiety.

1. If it is possible move from the immediate environment where the anxiety attack happened. It is not certain how or why such attacks occur so there is a possibility that the immediate environment may be the trigger that sets off the attack.
2. Without offending anyone in whose company you may have been when the attack occurred try to leave discreetly. If it happened at home in the sitting room with your partner present leave the room as quickly as you can without upsetting him/her. Make up an excuse if you don’t want to come clean and admit that you are having an anxiety attack.
3. Drink something hot such as a hot chocolate or lemon tea.
4. Go to bed and try to begin thinking about something that engaged your mind recently such as a good film, a round of golf, a play or an opera. Close your mind to everything else.
5. When you have recovered – say the next day find help on the internet. Buy a therapy program and follow it through. Social anxiety disorder help programs are readily available. Such programs are very successful and prior to getting professional (expensive) help they are worth a try.

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Organizing a Social Anxiety Support Group

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Posted on 29th June 2010 by IBobz in Social Support

Endeavor, Social Anxiety Support Group, Social Functions

Suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder can be a nightmare for many people, as their fear of public humiliation causes them to avoid even the simplest of social functions. Often, it can feel like the entire world is closing in on them, scrutinizing and judging their every word and deed. For many, it becomes too much to bear and they simply withdraw from social interaction and suffer alone in silence. For those who have taken the initiative to seek a diagnosis and begin treatment, the opportunity to interact with others who share their plight can be a tremendous help in their journey toward recovery. For that reason, organizing a social anxiety support group in their community, or online, can reap tremendous benefits.

Organizing a social anxiety support group may seem to be a task that is counterintuitive to the nature of someone suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder. In many cases, that is true. Because of that, persons suffering from the disorder may actually require assistance from family or friends in walking them through the process of advertising for such a group. The organizational process need not be expensive. Posting notices on the community boards of local shelters and DHS offices will usually get immediate responses. In addition, joining forums devoted to social anxiety will give you an opportunity to tell others about your group. In some cases, you may be surprised to find that some of the people on your forum are located within your own area.

The next step in organizing a social anxiety support group is to establish a place to meet. By talking with your local human services department or churches in the area, you will usually find that they are willing to help with such an endeavor by providing a meeting room for your group. In fact, as you make your journey toward recovery, you will at times be astonished at how helpful such organizations will be. Once you have obtained a meeting site, be sure to let the other participants know where the first meeting will be, and when. There are a couple of important points to remember when organizing a social anxiety support group. First of all, you don’t need several dozen people to start a group. Just a handful of people who want to talk through their fears and support one another will be sufficient to start with. Second, and most important, ensure that you all agree on the rules for discussion in advance. Your support group should be a place free from judgment and evaluation. If you can accomplish that, it will be a success for all involved.

By: Walter Shustikov

About the Author:

Walter Shustikov is the author of the book “How to Conquer Social Anxiety Disorder Now” which has helped thousands of people overcome their social anxiety. He is also the owner of the most popular blog about social anxiety disorder called ShyandQuiet.com.

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